Feel Calmer & More Resilient

Last update: 19/5/2020

Below, you’ll find the links to some videos I’ve made especially for those feeling overwhelmed or anxious about coronavirus. They demonstrate techniques which have been proven to help people feel calmer. Learn the techniques and use them every day.

Fear & Anxiety

Nobody’s feeling very calm with coronavirus around. There is a lot of fear and anxiety out there at the moment.

Fear is your body’s alarm system – it’s a necessary thing to have. It floods your body with adrenaline (epinephrine), cortisol and nor-adrenaline readying you to fight or flee. But you can’t run away from coronavirus, nor punch it on the nose! If this call-to-action system is constantly triggered in the way it is being now, it soon leads to overwhelm and depletes your immune system at the very time your immune system needs to be functioning optimally. In one of the videos below, EFT Tapping, you’ll see how to use a technique that’s been proven to give a welcome boost to your immune system!

But you have to take action to reduce your fear and boost your immune system – just reading this is not enough.

Take Action

Take the precautions you can, and calm your mind-body. My top tips include:

    • Follow the precautions and guidelines the scientists are recommending.
    • Listen to the news/read newspapers sparingly. You will get to hear all you need to know.
    • Get some perspective – as of 19/5/2020 worldwide 319,000 people have died with (not necessarily from) this virus, yet every year there are about 650,000 deaths from flu, 1.5 million deaths from tuberculosis, and over 405,000 deaths from malaria.
    • Every time the media talks about how many have died, hear instead the survival rates. Millions of people have survived COVID19 already. Some may even have had it without realising it, their immune systems are working so well. Others may feel like they have the flu and recover fully on their own.
    • Keep in contact with your friends, family and colleagues. They can support you, and vice versa, from a distance. You need social contact for your mental and emotional wellbeing. So practise physical distancing, not social distancing while you have to.
    • Keep active – clean, exercise, garden, decorate…
    • Learn something new – plenty to find out online or in books for the curious. Do that thing you always wanted to do. If you engage your brain in learning something new, it will have less time to worry.
    • Be mindful and meditate – join Meditation Room, for example. We’re fully online now. Mindfulness keeps you away from running scary scenarios in your mind, and helps you remain centred in the present moment. Meditation will help you take control of your thinking and give your body a boost. It takes practise, so keep at it.
    • Find something joyful, uplifting or to be thankful for in every day. Seek and you will find. Write them down, so you can look back on them if you need to.
    • If social media contributes to feelings of anxiety or overwhelm – limit it and put a pause on friends who spread fear.
    • Try some of the techniques below to give your mind-body a break and feel calmer and more resilient.

And before you go back out there, remember you won’t have the normal immunity you’re used to (unless you’ve been sneaking out with friends and family!) You build a lot of your immunity every day through human contact and not sterilising the shopping!

Find out what you can do, and build it back up before you go. Examples of things you can do to improve your immunity that I’ve found include: taking Vitamins C and D, zinc, elderberry extract (such as Sambucol), a variety of fresh food especially green leafy veg, being out in nature or the garden, sunshine and fresh air. And petting a dog helps you build your immune system!

Feel Calmer

There is a plethora of tools and techniques to help you feel calmer and more resilient. I’m sharing some of my favourites. All of them have been proven to work. Some you’ll find better suited to you than others. All of them work to help you feel calmer instantly, and may also physically change your brain by altering the way the neurons are ‘wired together’. This effect may take a few days to embed, so repeat the techniques as and when you feel necessary. The information provided in these videos should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment, if  you continue to feel overwhelmed or worse, book an appointment. I can see you over the internet on Google Hangouts, Zoom or Skype.

These videos are designed for you to join in. Just watching them won’t make a big difference, but joining in just might.

In the first part of my video series, I’ll guide you through some deceptively simple Havening Techniques (courtesy of Dr Ron Ruden at www.havening.org) that you can use on yourself to help calm you. The more often you Haven, the more resilient you will become.

Try Havening – video 1

Do some Tapping – video 2

The second in the series guides you through some Emotional Freedom Techniques. Join in and tap on the acupressure points to calm your system. Tap every day to help feel calmer and build up your resilience. Just say out loud whatever is making your fearful or anxious and tap on the points as shown to calm the body’s stress response. You don’t even have to get them in precisely the right order all the time to feel the benefit. Tapping has also been shown to boost your Salivary Immunoglobulin A (SigA) as well as your mental wellbeing.

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Breathe – video 3

One of the things I notice with clients when describing their fears is that their breathing changes or that they hold their breath. Practise breathing from your diaphragm – it fires your parasympathetic nervous system – the rest and digest system. In the third video, breathe with me! I recommend you breathe every day!!!

Laugh! – video 4

There’s probably never been a time when you’ve felt less like laughing and needed it more. Give a little boost to your immune system and mental wellbeing with daily laughter. In these trying times, give yourself permission to be a bit silly and laugh for no good reason other that you can. (Or laugh at me – I did when I watched it back!) Join in now. Laughing will also clear out the old stale air from your lungs most efficiently and joyfully! Once you start looking for the lighter side of life, you’ll find it. PLUS, and it’s a big one, laughter creates melatonin in your body and melatonin helps you sleep.


You might find some of my posts helpful. Here’s one on fully experiencing your emotion to let it go.

These videos are for learning purposes only. The information provided in these videos should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment.